Ask any father or mother and they’ll all tell you the same thing: parenting is not as easy as it looks. Most of the time, your days will be filled with making decisions, whether big or small, that you hope will ultimately be for your child’s best.
If you are not careful, you might even fall into the tendency of being an overprotective parent and that is never a good thing.
In a Psychology Today article, author and psychotherapist Amy Morin warned:
“If you’ve always rescued your child from facing his own battles and sheltered him from responsibility, he’ll lack the experience and confidence he needs to get by in the real world.”
So how does a parent tell if he or she is already going the extremes? Here are 5 signs to watch out for!
1. Instilling “victim mentality.”
Perhaps you may be doing it unintentionally but instilling the so-called “victim mentality” is, of course, a bad idea. As Morin explained:
“Rejection, failure, and unfairness are part of life. Getting cut from the soccer team or failing a class doesn’t make your child a victim.”
Sure, even us, as adults, do not like such negative feelings but if we keep sheltering our children too much, they may have greater emotional difficulty facing it later in life.
2. Shying away from hard topics.
While it is true that talking about sensitive topics (such as violence, sex, and others) can be particularly challenging, you need to talk about them nonetheless. Besides, doing so would help you protect them from possible harm.
According to clinical psychologist Samantha Rodman:
“Don’t view education and knowledge as dangerous or harmful.”
Entertain questions, if they have any. The key, of course, is to keep your words age-appropriate. For younger ones, children’s books can be powerful tools.
3. Being overly cautious about safety – to the point of paranoia!
Remember how most of our parents back in the days allowed us to play in the dirt? Some parents today do not do that anymore, plus they’re even very paranoid about child safety.
Ellen Sandseter, professor of early-childhood education at Queen Maud University College said about this:
“Our fear of children being harmed (mostly in minor ways) may result in more fearful children.”
Meanwhile, Joe Frost, safety consultant of John Carroll University, further added:
“In the real world, life is filled with risks – financial, physical, emotional, social – and reasonable risks are essential for children’s healthy development.”
4. Preventing the child from interacting with others.
Your child may be a bit timid but if you let him or her always cling to you during occassions and gatherings, they may have harder time developing social skills later on as they grow older.
According to the UK BabyCentre website:
“If we protect a shy child from having to interact with others we build on that initial predisposition making it harder for her to cope. Equally, if we ignore her temperament and throw her in at the deep end, we undermine what little confidence she has.”
So yes, it’s advisable to provide encouragement as long as you’re not too pushy.
5. Solving your child’s problems.
Another common mistake that some parents commit is to immediately step in and take charge of the situation whenever their children are facing difficulties.
For example, overprotective parents instantly feel alarmed when their children get low grades that they rush right away to meet with the teacher or something.
Clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone shared:
“Many parents are willing to overextend themselves in catering to their children and excessively meeting their needs. They then feel surprised or resentful when their children grow up feeling unable to care for themselves.”
Children would later struggle with the “challenges of adulthood”, pointed out Morin, if parents are always stepping in to solve their problems.
“Offering your words of wisdom can be helpful,” said Morin. “But that’s different than taking over and doing things for your child.”
Oldest Public Library In Germany Dates Back To Roman Era
The Romans may have built it around 1,800 years ago!
It's interesting what you can find when you do a little digging. In 2017, a Protestant church in Cologne decided to break some ground to build a community center. Instead, they found the walls of what could be the oldest public library in Germany. How old are the ruins? Archaeologists believe the structure was built almost 1,800 years ago.
Cologne is certainly one of the oldest cities in Germany so finding Roman artifacts in the area is no surprise. After all, it was the Romans who founded the city in 50 A.D. Nevertheless, the archaeologists are truly excited about the find since it was obviously a library meant for public use.
Archaeologists believe the library once had a collection of up to 20,000 scrolls
10 Humblebrag Posts We Usually See Online
Prepare to cringe!
Whether you are active or not on social media, it's impossible to miss a humblebrag post. You might have even posted one.
Basically, humblebragging is someone's simple but boastful way of saying how awesome his/her life is. Here are some examples of a humblebrag post.
#1. "Just donated at Kids Foundation. Sharing is caring. #feelsogood"
Prince Harry Is Selling His Audi RS6 Avant For $93K
The Duke of Sussex might be in the market for a family car.
Have you ever wanted to own something that once belonged to royalty? Prince Harry is giving you the chance to become the new proud owner of his beloved sports car. The 2017 Audi RS6 Avant can be yours for only £71,000 (around $93,000).
So why is the Duke of Sussex so eager to get rid of the Audi? Some believe that Prince Harry is looking for a new car that could accommodate more than just him and Meghan Markle. Could this mean that the prince and his lovely wife are already planning to raise a family?
The Duke and Duchess of Sussex could be in the market for a more conservative ride