It’s a question that’s often asked with good intentions but comes out wrong in the long run: “When are you having kids?” Ask any couple about it and they’d definitely tell you it’s not an easy one to answer.
In most cases, the answer could be really complicated that couples do not feel comfortable talking about it in public. One mother from Melbourne, Australia took it upon herself to discourage others from asking couples such a personal question.
Adele, who runs The Real Mumma blog, shared her own experience:
“We are just enjoying being newly married”
“We have some travelling we want to do first”
“I’m just focusing on my career right now …”
“These are just a few of the reasons I used (with a forced smile) to mask what was really going on.”
Unknown to people, Adele and her husband were “battling fertility challenges” at the time, according to a Babyology feature.
One time, she decided to answer someone with the brutal truth.
“One day I responded with ‘it’s not that fu**ing easy, you know’. I had just got my period that morning…. again.”
“The odds of conception and retaining a pregnancy are actually pretty sh*t, topped off with the huge amount of people that are reproductively challenged with polycystic ovaries, endometriosis etc etc. And I was one of them.”
Adele further added:
“When you are having difficulty conceiving, it seems everyone around you is falling pregnant. It’s easy to be happy for them at first but that brave face wears thin after a while. I even started to decline going to certain get together’s and attending baby birthdays were just painful. I became quite bitter, desperate and depressed.”
Although she and her husband eventually had babies after several years of trying, Adele still wants to warn people about asking couples regarding the sensitive topic.
“Many couples will be trying for years. And some may never succeed and my heart goes out to them. And what about the couple that doesn’t want kids? Or the couple that had a child but can’t afford to have another? Or those that have lost little ones?”
“Next time you go to say that ‘throw away’ comment to the newlyweds or the couple that have been together for ten years, be sensitive. Don’t ask them when they are having kids. You never know what’s going on.”
Adele’s post earned a lot of support from her followers, with many sharing their own insights and experiences about the topic as well.
“About three days after I started miscarrying, I was asked ‘when are you going to hurry up and have kids, you can’t wait forever, you don’t want to be too much older’.”
Another pointed out:
“So thankful for those of you who are mindful of people like myself who find it difficult to conceive/stay pregnant. It makes life a little easier not having to explain all the time and answer the dreaded question.”
Meanwhile, a commenter wrote:
“These questions should never be asked. Along with congratulating someone who you suspect is pregnant. Unless they are all but going into labor in front of you it’s still not ok to ask.”
Go check out the discussion over at The Real Mumma page on Facebook.
2 Cats Who Have Been Trying To Enter Japanese Museum Get Their Own Merchandise
They’ve been trying to slip past the security guard for the past two years!
A Japanese museum has a pair of famous art enthusiasts who have yet to step inside the establishment. The two cats have been trying, and ultimately failing, to enter the museum for the past two years. Nevertheless, they have been immortalized in the museum's awesome merchandise.
The story of Ken-Chan and Go-Chan started in 2016 when the Hiroshima Onomichi City Museum of Art had a cat exhibit. The black cat, who has been named Ken, tried to casually walk into the building but was immediately turned away. After a year of trying to slip into the museum, Ken was joined by a tabby that was named Gosaku, or Go-Chan.
Ken started the trend in 2016...
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Guys, would you like to work as a ‘summer boyfriend’?
Male job seekers, listen up! Working as a "summer boyfriend" is now officially a thing you might want to give it a shot - if you can meet the requirements for it, that is.
A job advertisement recently went viral online after it caught everyone's attention. The said job opening was originally spotted on the notice board of University of Auckland in New Zealand by a company called $ugardaddyapplications Ltd. It was later posted on the Overheard @ University of Auckland’s Facebook page where it attracted a lot of reactions.
The ad says they need a "physically strong summer boyfriend" to play a "key role in a busy team."
22 Animals That Are Way Bigger Than You Thought
#19 is very intimidating!
How big are animals really compared to us? We’ve all seen the charts that attempt to show an animal’s size compared to that of an average human, but it’s very hard to truly comprehend an animal’s relative size based on shaded figures - especially when we’re so used to seeing them in a much smaller size.
When we talk about dogs, cats, rabbits, and other cute creatures, we have specific sizes for each one in mind. However, just like us humans, they also come in different shapes and sizes. In fact, some of their breeds are much larger than you thought. Here are 22 animals that are way bigger than we could have imagined.
1. This dog seems to be bigger than his human.